Do it, tomorrow can be too late...

It was a pretty agitated period of my life when I received an email from a friend... I had read it some time ago because it is the kind of message loop running, but so far I failed to understand the the message with so deep emotional charge, however I say very real... It was about a story imagined or even happened to anyone, but certainly will be experienced by all of us one time and I will play back below:

"My friend opened his wife's wardrobe drawer and pulled out a small package wrapped in silk ...

-This, he told me, is not a simple package is a piece of underwear... He opened the package and he look closely the silk and the lace...

-I bought it for her first time when we were together in New York, with 8 or 9 years ago, but never used it... She wanted to keep it for a special occasion. Well, I think now is the right time...

Approaches the bed and put this package with other things brought from the funeral home…  His wife just died... Turning to me with tears in his eyes told me:

-Do not keep anything for a special occasion... Remember what I say: every day you live, is a special occasion..."

When I finished reading, I fell to thoughts and I remembered that often happened to me to regret opportunities that I have missed sometimes intentionally, occasions I have scheduled for later or who I have given with foot, being convinced that my life will provide other and other favorable opportunities…

Most times we indulge in the tranquility of the daily routine without realizing that we ceiling our life and even our feelings. Moreover many times we pride with our power to restrain our desires, with the strength to guard against unnecessary risks. Turning too adventurous of life we see them like some temptations that deserves to be bypassed far away.

But as often happens, we find ourselves over the years, regretting  the fact that we have not done in good time things and now is too late. And began to beg time to turn back or to convince watches opposite directions know, although we know that can not be. Then, licking our wounds, we cover the pain with bandages of promise that from now on, we will weigh more carefully the decision to say "NO" or “DO IT LATER".

Once and for all, must remove from our vocabulary phrases like "SOMEDAY", "ONE OF THESE DAYS", "THE TIME COMES WHEN I DO THIS ONE TOO" if we want to protect us from the terrible regrets that most likely we will have when we understand that we want, but we can not turn back time to change our history. Or it is good to be proud that we live aright judging by others people rules, telling us all the time that I do not like that, or vice versa because "WHAT PEOPLE SAY???" Do not forget that people sees, hears and speaks... Unfortunately sees evil, hears less and always talks too much... An old saying, says that only the soil can cover the mouth of the people, so if you wanted to you do not do anything that you like because it's unusual, believing that people will not gossip, you are in a terrible mistake. Any problem you have with the world, it is your problem. And it is in your power to solve it so that will be fine for you. Do not do anything for them. Do it for you. For your peace of mind and soul ...

You realize though seems signs of temperance, some restrictions which you are imposed on your life, it can keep away from own happiness? A refusal of a request to marry with your first love, because you have not yet graduated, interruption of pregnancy, because you're too young to become a mother, giving up a career that is displeasing parents may be as many trains that once lost, never stop in your railway station ...

So, you can not always go on the principle that "I WILL DO ONCE, NEVER IS TOO LATE", because they may realize with pain sometimes, that it is "TOO LATE"...

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The complexes or the reality from mirror…

          Few days ago I talking with a friend who told me that she not dress extravagantly, because she do not like mens turn heads after her...  "Maybe I have a complex ..." she said me... I looked with amazement to her because I knew it the type of woman with an open mind, always secure on it, strong, confident knowledge and own forces... My first reaction was to smile...  But next thought erased the smile from my face because I wondered myself if I had the courage to recognize so easily a complex... 

          Often we hear it said sarcastically about certain people, that "is complexed!" Who claims that, tries to evaluate global the other one, in a painful and profound way because he can not bring other arguments to support his statement. And that's because generally, people know very vague concept of complex and much less manage to locate and interpret it.  

          None dictionary definition do not clear up you because is too lapidary. Here it says that a complex is partially or totally unconscious set of representations and memories, formed in childhood based on specific family or social relationships, with strong value or emotional signification, that affect mental state and subsequent behavior of a person.

          The fact which attracts attention is that a complex is rooted in childhood... So, most studies present the onset of human complexes in the first years of life, from the first contact with the environment. The experts do not assimilate the complexes with the disease, considering that they are part of life, but in cases where they do not solve themselves the complexes can become precursors or causes of character disorders affecting both the child and future adult.

          When a complex or a series of complex occurs, we appear in the eyes of other people like stereotypical, repetitive, excessive and poorly suited. But how we appear in own eyes?

          Since the appearance of man, his obsession was to be able to see him... Probably the first mirror that he used at the beginning of history was water from a pond or a lake. In this he saw the face for the first time. Since then, mirrors have become indispensable to modern man ... But have you ever had occasion to go to amusement parks in a "hall of mirrors curved"? Because of deformation, they make when weak, when fat, when short, when high... All those images with you in such situations amused you... But if you look into a straight  mirror and your brain refuses to perceive the real picture? If it gives "errors" like a broken computer and it would show you in the mirror image that you are too short, have a nose too big, lips too thin, thick waist, cellulite, and many thousands of such "defects"???

          The feeling of inferiority or guilt that they have not 90/60/90, Angelina Jolie lips or nose and flat abdomen of Chaterine Zeta Jones, for women, that they have not height or muscles of do not know which male celebrity, for men, mental locks the complexed person, not allowing it to enjoy his life and to succeed in what he propose... Sometimes, the complex is difficult to identify, manifested as such behavior as, images, emotions, that prevent adaptation to always new situations and problems. And so suddenly the mirror becomes your worst enemy, because it present in front of you a picture which you refuse to assimilate with you... The person from the mirror can not be you... is too imperfect to be you…

         You must look beyond the image returned by the mirror... Do not deny you for a crooked nose or a few extra pounds... What you reject now, will destroy you and what you hide in the back will hit in your back in the future... Do not hide in anonymity just for a bad opinion have about yourself, after all, with good and bad, that is you... Try to use the mirror as measurement unit of the way how you are seen by your close one, for what is you particularly special, unique, in their eyes? Look in the mirror as would do a friend who wants to know, penetrate beyond the image, and if you can look in your own eyes, you already passed the hardest test, because then the man from the mirror is your friend.

          Find the balance to reconcile with your defects, to do so the opinion about yourself to be the correct and to be less influenced by factors such as external beauty, intelligence, parents, brothers or financial difficulties. Know thyself and you will never be in a position to float like a boat in disarray in the ocean called life. Do not forget, complexes define us as individuals, are part of our identity and particularly our vulnerability, without which we would not be human beings.

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Think PINK

          Every time you were upset or depressed, the persons close to you not able to give a solution to your problems, they encourages you to think positive... Thinking positively... Maybe a too laconic expression... Hearing it so many times, probably that it had lost sense or probably you have not ever know what is the true meaning... Have you ever stopped your activity for 30 seconds to ask yourself what mean to think positively.

          Positive thinking is nothing else than to have a winner attitude... Is it that "WANT, CAN, SUCCEED" toward which tends all... It is that kind of mental behavior with which manage to overcome the difficulties of your life and to fulfill your dreams... It is the anticipation of happiness, joy, success and health…                                                

          Each of us have passed along the years through moments when we felt that, for one reason or another, our life is turned upside down. Then, dark thoughts cloud our view and feel that we can not get out of that vicious circle of troubles, which seem to bring other and other troubles with them... The first instinct is to identify the cause which led to this depressed situation but most of the time we do not realize which is the exact moment that life struck us. And that is because generally this thing does not happen suddenly... Almost none of those who go through such an experience, who had lost their dearest or being in which they believed, can not say that was all about, a phone or a letter, or that they had a sudden unexpected discovery, an illumination, after which our life would collapse.                                                                               

          This is the moment when should take place the latch for unchaining when you refuse to look down, when you look at the full half glass, when you propose favorable future evolution... You should remember the pleasant moments of life and tend to relive them. Do not victimize you, be honest with you so you can reconcile with yourself and with what you are...                                                                                                   

          Positive thinking do not have to mean foolish optimism, superficiality in addressing problems or indifference. It is absurd to think that adopting a positive attitude you become a millionaire or that incurable diseases will be treated with the power of thought... With all this do not underestimate the power of thought, because in times of trouble, all difficulties - which are part of life - will be easier to pass if you orient the way of thinking on the principles of positive thinking ...                               

          Certainly you had days when in personal or professional life you had the feeling that everything goes smoothly and that it can not doing anything wrong. The next day you lived the experience the opposite, where everything seemed to go bad or very bad, when you fail to do some things that makes them easily yesterday, when each action was wrong, when any attempt seemed doomed to failure. You are not asked, how, when you are the same person with the same resources available in the same situation one day you give amazing results which you are proud, and in others only miserable results? The answer to the question regarding performance differences you will find only in the mental state in which you were... There are conditions that stimulate trust in you, love, inner strength, joy, ecstasy, which unlocks your personal power, but also state which blocked you, of confusion, depression, fear, sadness, frustration, which drained you of your power, states which can become defining, reflecting your personality later.                                                                                                

          Do not indulge long time in the depression and anxiety because all this bad experience are recorded, without you realize, in an area of the subconscious... Much of thought departing from your subconscious, which is an ocean of automatisms, skills, informations, emotions, memories. You are not aware that your feelings, memories, experiences, all that you saw, will remain ever present and will influence how make your choices. If now, you do not have the life you desire, it means that your subconscious is inoculated the idea that it is state of happiness you deserve. But the subconscious does not make a selection of thoughts and emotions the stored and can not discern between good and bad, between fantasy and reality. It is responsible for many of our decisions because, thinking based on logic and conscious is in much smaller proportion than that based on subconscious. As the amount of negative thoughts and emotions stored in your subconscious mind is greatly you need more time and wishes to overcome the blockage and have your dream life...                                                                     

          Your positive thinking is not only your... Thinking positive you influence the people around... Happiness, joy, smile which you transmit will be taken immediately to others. Your positive mood will bring close your friends which will love you and will cherish you.  

          So be the person who faces life with a positive attitude and you will always have greater success in personal and professional life, but a person which can not take control of his thoughts. Do not forget that troubles come and go... They will always attract other and other troubles, but must have the courage to pass from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm...

                                                                  

      When the life knock you, get up calm, shake out by dust, smile polite and say: "KICKING LIKE A GIRL!!!"

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The life goes on... even without you

    Life is a series of ups and downs... Happy moments alternate with difficult moments... Nobody feels the pressing lonely and the sour taste of despair when life smiling and when your friends are close... But the difficult moments, reveal the true character of the human and highlight the power to overcome difficulties and to put the past behind... Yes, it is about those difficult moments when we face changes or even to generate these changes ourselves, when we have to take important decisions or when we are faced decisions taken by others, immovable which affects us directly and personally.
    Each of us react differently to such changes ...
    Some accept change very easily, with head up and they move on...
    Others had the time problem...  They live running after the time but they can not get it, even when run faster... For the others the time delay to pass and they look greedy to the future, forgetting to live in the present moment which is the really time... For everyone the time is equal, no one has no more and no less than 24 hours a day ... The difference is what do each with that time... We must take advantage from every moment, because THE LIFE IS WHAT PASSES, while we make plans for the future...
    There are people who do nothing in life but solving the problems: solve my problems, solve your problems, solve another people problems... But they forget about own soul... They forget that must live and love... But there are moments in the life when it is time to love himself... To take care of own soul ... To not be sensitive to others, to not hear what others say, just to do what they feels and what they wants... And if one kind of person is asked tomorrow by someone, "why does not care?", is time to answer "that because cared too much before..." If he asked "why do not cry?", is time to answer "that because i cry too much so far..." And if he wondered  "why sit alone in a corner?", it is time to answer "because it is time for own soul..."

    Some of us find it harder to accept the new reality and the current status of affairs and they strive hard to keep with the teeth of the past.

We must remember that we can not be now, just missing the past. Even wondering "why???". What has happened, has happened, and if you want to be free, you must detach from the past. Facts pass and be left to pass! That is why, sometimes, it is so important to destroy memories, to make a gift, to change your house, to break the papers, to throw old documents, and to sell or make  gift your favorite book. The past is past... Obstinately repeating the phrase "my personal past" would hurt soul and mind, and will poison and sadden you. Life is only forward, never backward... If you go through life leaving "open door" - just in case - you never could detach from the past, you will not live this day with gratitude. The love or the friends you do not remove them from the heart? Possibilities to you return? Why? Need the explanation? Unspoken words? Now it's time to make the decision... If you can face them, now it's time ... If not, let them go, close the chapters... Tell yourself: "I do not want them backward". But not because of pride or vanity, but because you do not be part of that place, in that heart, in that room in the house, from that office, in that job...
    You are not the guy from two days ago or three months, or a year. Therefore, there is nothing to which to come back... Close the door, gives the page, completes the cycle... You will not be the same and the environment will not be the same too, because nothing remains static in that life.
    For your mental and spiritual health, detach for all things that not appear in your life... Realize that no one and nothing is indispensable... Nobody is vital for you to live... You came into this world alone, so readapt to live with yourself, without that close human or physical, that comes you so hard to break up today.
    Never, when we are in difficult moments, in the crossroads, we not remember that the unwritten vacuum law that will operate and it says that to make way for good things in our lives, we need to escape old ones... Many people do not know that immutable law of the universe and, as it happens by itself this life "cleansing", they fall into the abyss of despair and depression, continuing to live in the past and feel that the life will never be the same again... but fortunately, life can be much better...
  To open a new door, sometimes you need to close other doors and opportunities will arise. All you have to do is to give up what was, to accept that it was over and you trust that something better awaits us and only now will could manifest in our lives... And this is true in any area of ​​life, be it career, family or love life.
    You just ended a relationship? Remember the good things, analyze what went wrong, to not made the same in the future, it is just to can improve and to move with the head up... Call your friends and go out... Now you have all the time and space to find what you want, backed by more experience and wisdom. Remember only this: never forget someone important in our lives but learn to live without him...
    Always must to know when it's time to finish a particular stage of life and to have the courage to say STOP. If you insist you keep in that stage beyond a reasonable time, you lose your joy and sense of what is beyond. Close cycles, or doors, or chapters. Important is to close it and you can leave behind moments of our life, moments which ends.

We must learn the lesson and keep walking, because who does not learn the lesson of the past, are condemned to repeat it...

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